It’s hard for me believe that my husband, Mike, and I have been married almost eight years. And we’ve been having a lot of fun. Being married is kind of like having a perpetual slumber party with your best friend. Until, the kids arrive. Then things start getting a little more complicated.
Suddenly, there are more responsibilities, more things we have to spend money on, and a lot less time to sleep. Of course, kids are worth the sacrifice, but I have to admit, sometimes my relationship with my husband suffers a bit due to the extra time commitment. When you bring an infant home, it’s natural to center your entire life around them, catering to his or her every need. As the kids get older though, some boundaries need to be established. That why, when Ted Cunningham spoke of a kid-centered home in his book, Fun Loving You: Enjoying Your Marriage in the Midst of the Grind, he kind hit me square between the eyes.
Desperate to be a good mother, I often prioritize the kids over my husband and feel self-righteous doing it. In his book, Ted reminds his readers that while it’s important to be a good parent and available to your children, it’s also important to keep the fire of your marriage alive and healthy.
Ted advocates especially for the:
- Daily Delay (moment for meaningful conversation)
- Weekly Withdrawal (date night)
- Annual Abandon (vacation together)
I am my Beloved’s…
Throughout the entire book, Ted Cunningham takes a close look at the Song of Solomon and makes direct application to marriage based on the verses in that book. It was interesting to take a closer look at this biblical book, though I’m not sure the book needed quite so many references to bedroom activities.
Some Great Suggestions
While the book started out a little slow for me, I found some great insight and lots of practical ideas towards the middle of the book. In chapter Five, he gives some suggestions for dates as well as some great discussion questions to use while on the date.
This video trailer gives you a pretty good glimpse of the book:
Favorite quotes from this book include:
“Character trumps chemistry and compatibility. Great marriages flow from character. A good match is a good start, but it will never sustain a thriving, intimate, and loving marriage. Only character does that.” (p 42)
“Moral laxity is the number one cause of divorce in this country. Debt, adultery, and broken promises are symptoms of a spouse’s lack of character.” (p 43)
“Rejected compliments lead to no compliments.”
This is a perfect book to pick up around Valentine’s Day, especially for a newly marriage couple. The date ideas and questions alone would make it worth the money for me. Grab your copy of Fun Loving You at Amazon!
Ted Cunningham is the founding pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church, in Branson, MO. He has authored Trophy Child and Young and in Love. Cunningham has also co-authored four other books with Dr. Gary Smalley: The Language of Sex, From Anger to Intimacy, As Long As We Both Shall Live and Great Parents, Lousy Lovers. He is a graduate of Liberty University and Dallas Theological Seminary.
More Stuff to Check Out:
- Book Review from Disciple Mom blog
- The Dating Divas Sassy Suggestions (TONS of date ideas)
- 50 Questions to ask your spouse on date night
- Date your spouse for less by Mommy Savers
- 62 Date Night Ideas
Full Disclosure: This is a sponsored post from David C. Cook. The opinions expressed are my own. I am always honest in my reviews and would never recommend a product unless I thought my readers would really benefit from it. 🙂